“I don’t have extremely restrictive requirements. Why haven’t you matched me yet?”
On any given day, several women may enter into our matching program. On the same day, a number of women may also fail out. The numbers on either side are unpredictable. Therefore, the number of viable GC candidates available for potential matches can vary – sometimes dramatically – from one day to the next.
The needs and requirements of each candidate can also vary dramatically from day to day. One day, we may receive 5 applications from candidates who say that they are open to working with any type of IP. Another, we may get only 1 candidate who doesn’t have a firm requirement for the type of family she wants to help, or who isn’t restricted by the legal requirements of the state in which she lives. These things are purely unpredictable.
Let’s take a snapshot of a day where we have identified four new viable GC candidates and see how some potential matches might be determined by applying some realistic limiting factors:
- Two of the new candidates only want to work with a straight married couple or a single mom, one only wants to work with a gay couple, and one is open to any type of family demographic. (These factors vary from month to month and are completely unpredictable.)
- The two candidates who want to work with a straight married couple are both candidates who will also only work with Intended Parents who are fully committed to a Single Embryo Transfer. If there are 4 straight married couples waiting for a match, and 3 of them want to leave open the possibility to transfer more than one embryo, then there is only one set of IPs who can even be considered for this surrogate candidate, even if their search started after many of our other Intended Parents.
- The candidate who only wants to work with a gay couple does not want to terminate for Down Syndrome, and needs IPs who feel the same way. If we only have one gay couple waiting for a match who are certain that they would not terminate for Down Syndrome, then there is only one set of IPs who can even be considered for this surrogate candidate, even if their search started after many of our other Intended Parents.
- The candidate who is open to any type of family lives in a state that is only legally “good” for Intended Parents who are using their own fully genetic embryos (this is a legal issue in some states – see our US Surrogacy Map for more details.) If the Intended Parents who have been waiting the longest are using an egg donor or a sperm donor, then we cannot consider them for this candidate, even though they may be “ahead” of other Intended Parents in the search process.
Additionally, please consider that there are nearly infinite limiting combinations that are possible when considering matching, such as legal requirements, geographical requirements, preferences on education, budget considerations for lost wages, etc. Put these things together in context with the fact that each surrogate candidate also has her own preferences and requirements, and it becomes clear that matching is much more than a “next in line” proposition.